7 REASONS WHY DO PEOPLE HAVE TO FIGHT AGAINST THE CHILD AND TEENAGE PSYCHE IN ADULTS AND WHY THE PRESENCE OF A CHILD'S PSYCHE IS DANGEROUS FOR A PERSON IN ADULT LIFE!

Boris Belevtsov

The author of the article and the developer of online services in which families with children will learn to the communication without insults and fight against the child's psyche in adults in order to create an environment of truly adults in the worldview of people, thanks to which every child will be able to focus on revealing their strengths for subsequent self-realization in life!

It is important to understand that in fact, each person has two ages - biological and worldview. A person may have a biological age of 35-40 years, and worldview age is still the same teenager!

At first glance, this is not obvious, but almost all the problems of mankind, from minor everyday problems to global economic crises and international wars, lie in the area of this problematics! The most dangerous and most hidden from society destructive all-consuming «sect» in the world is the huge number of people with the presence of a child's psyche in adult life!

7 REASONS WHY DO PEOPLE HAVE TO FIGHT AGAINST THE CHILD AND TEENAGE PSYCHE IN ADULTS!

1 IF YOUR CHILD GROWS UP SURROUNDED BY ADULTS WITH A CHILD'S PSYCHE, WHILE BEING DEPENDENT ON THEM, THEN HE WILL NEVER GROW UP IN HIS WORLDVIEW AND WILL NOT BE ABLE TO REVEAL HIS NATURAL POTENTIAL, HIS STRENGTHS AND SELF-ACTUALIZE IN LIFE! AS A RESULT, YOUR CHILD WILL LIVE A LIFE OF SELF-DOUBT, MOST LIKELY IN POVERTY AND IN PROBLEMS CREATED BY HIMSELF AND HIS LOVED ONES!

2 IF YOU DECIDE TO CONNECT YOUR FATE WITH A PERSON WITH A CHILD'S PSYCHE, YOU WILL NOT CREATE A STRONG FAMILY AND MOST LIKELY GET DIVORCED!

3 IF YOU FIND SIGNS OF A CHILD'S PSYCHE IN YOUR RELATIVES, YOU WILL LOSE CONFIDENCE IN THEM! AND IF THEY FIND SIGNS IN YOU, THEN THEY WILL LOSE CONFIDENCE IN YOU!

4 IF YOUR FRIENDS HAVE A CHILD OR TEENAGE PSYCHE — THEY ARE UNRELIABLE, THEREFORE DANGEROUS AND WILL 100% LET YOU DOWN!

5 YOU ARE VERY UNLUCKY IN LIFE IF YOUR BOSS IS AN OVER-AGED «TEENAGE»!

6 ALL CRIMES IN THE WORLD ARE COMMITTED BY ADULTS WITH A CHILD AND TEENAGE PSYCHE — THE AVERAGE WORLDVIEW AGE OF A PERSON IS 12-16 YEARS!

7 ADULTS WITH THE WORLDVIEW OF TEENAGERS ARE NOT ABLE TO AGREE WITH EACH OTHER! IF SUCH PEOPLE FIND THEMSELVES IN POWER - EXPECT A BIG DISASTER FOR SOCIETY AS A WHOLE!

ATTENTION! THE CHILD'S PSYCHE IN ADULT LIFE IS DANGEROUS FOR A PERSON!

IT IS THE PRESENCE OF A CHILD'S PSYCHE IN ADULTS THAT IS THE MAIN REASON:

LACK OF SELF-REALIZATION
ALCOHOLISM
DRUG ADDICTION
CRIME
CORRUPTION
DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOR
HOMELESSNESS
SUICIDE
ACCIDENTS
TRAFFIC ACCIDENT
INSOLENCE AND RUDENESS
CONFLICTS AND AGGRESSION
UNCONSCIOUS RISK AND CARELESSNESS IN LIFE!
IMPORTANT! LIFE IS ALWAYS A LONG-TERM TEAM GAME, WHERE PEOPLE ARE INTERDEPENDENT ON EACH OTHER, WHICH IS WHY THE SUCCESS OF YOUR FAMILY DEPENDS NOT ONLY ON YOU, BUT ALSO ON THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU!

AND IF IN ADULT LIFE THE SURROUNDING PEOPLE REVEAL SIGNS OF A CHILD'S PSYCHE IN A PERSON, THEN THERE WILL ALWAYS BE DISTRUST TOWARDS HIM AT THE DOMESTIC AND PROFESSIONAL LEVEL, WHERE WITHOUT AWARENESS OF THIS PROBLEM, NEITHER FAMILY, NOR FRIENDSHIP, NOR BUSINESS WILL NOT WORK!

| WHY DOES A CHILD'S PSYCHE PERSIST IN ADULTS?

In the development of the popular first generation social networks, a serious mistake was made: social networks were inadvertently designed exclusively for the child's psyche! It is for this reason that in the process of online communication, people do not have a psychological maturation in their worldview!

When communicating with each other, children and adolescents focus only on themselves, while each distracts the other's attention, as a rule, on something insignificant and unimportant in life! As a result, constantly being distracted by peers, the child develops an erroneous idea that everything is as it should be, that is how everyone around them lives and that means it’s right! And this model of behavior, the only and, unfortunately, natural for the child's psyche, repeats itself from year to year and becomes the norm for decades!

Further, such communication passes from virtual to real life, in which children are simultaneously at the mercy of the worldview of other children and depending on the immature parents - there is a mutual fixation and obsession on each other! As a result, a child grows up surrounded by people with a child's psyche, and society has an outwardly adults 25-40 years old with a child's psyche, who is not able to take into account the possibility of negative consequences from their actions!

| HOW TO FIGHT AGAINST THE THE CHILD'S PSYCHE IN IN ADULTS?

In order to fight against child and teenage psyche in «ExtremePremium.com» in the system of color blocksigns «Сonflict-free thinking™», which solves issues of everyday psychology, there is the most important — the fifth «green» blocksign*.

In the process of everyday communication, the environment of caring people who have confidence in each other — parent, children or friends, showing care and goodwill towards each other and identifying each other's behavior inherent in adolescence, are sending green blocksigns each other, which identify the signs of child and teenage psyche, both in adults and children. (see signs below)

As a result, a person starts thinking processes, thanks to which he becomes aware of his own "adolescence", which automatically forms the psyche and worldview of a truly adult person, in whom self-criticism and responsibility contribute to purposefulness.

Obviously, in economic terms, a purposeful person will achieve much greater success in life than an over-aged «child»!

*see also other blocksigns:
«INSULTING A PERSON'S PERSONALITY»
«EXTREME INSULTS AND HUMAN SECURITY MONITORING»
«INSULTS OF FEMALE DIGNITY»
«INSULTS OF MALE DIGNITY»


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IMPORTANT! A TRULY ADULT PERSON IS:

1 A PERSON WHO CONSIDERS THE POSSIBILITY OF DESTRUCTIVE CONSEQUENCES FROM THEIR ACTIONS AND IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THEM!

2 A PERSON WHO IS FOCUSED ON DISCOVERING NATURAL POTENTIAL, THAT IS, THE STRENGTHS IN HIMSELF AND IN THOSE AROUND HIM!

3 SOMEONE WHO SHOWS CARE, AND IS NOT THE OBJECT OF CARE!

| SIGNS OF A CHILD AND TEENAGE PSYCHE IN ADULTS!

IMPORTANT! THE FIGHT AGAINST THE CHILD'S PSYCHE WILL ALLOW A PERSON TO OBJECTIVELY CONSIDER AND IDENTIFY THEIR NATURAL POTENTIAL, THEIR STRENGTHS FOR THEIR SUBSEQUENT DISCLOSURE AND SELF-REALIZATION IN LIFE!
NOTE Users using the color blocksign system «Conflict-free thinking™» can technically independently add signs of a child's psyche for General consideration and discussion within the resource!

2nd EDITION
(Author: Boris Belevtsov)

NOTE it is difficult to call a person an adult if he/she was found to have the following signs! green blocksign
A group of signs of a child and teenage psyche corresponding to a green blocksign:

1 fanaticism and any of its manifestations: ideological, political, national, religious, sports, etc., except for a balanced desire to be a professional in their field to achieve a high competitive level;


2 excessive sense of self-importance, provoked by extreme vulnerability;

Commentary on sign No. 2.

ATTENTION! An adult with a child's psyche has an extremely strong sense of touchiness! Such a person is absolutely not able to psychologically endure any humiliation-insults in his address, especially public ones! It is important to understand that it is the strongest sense of resentment that provokes in a person an uncontrolled desire to look significant in the eyes of others at any cost, that is, serious and adult, not to be an empty place and even more so not to be humiliated! And if such a person is in a state of extreme psychological stress, then in attempts to avenge numerous humiliations, this can lead him to aggressive actions and violence against others!
IMPORTANT! THE PREVENTION OF AGGRESSION AND VIOLENCE AMONG ADULTS WITH A CHILD'S PSYCHE IS POSSIBLE ONLY IF AN ENVIRONMENT IS CREATED THAT CATEGORICALLY PROHIBITS INSULTS AND HUMILIATION AMONG TEENAGERS AND CHILDREN!
— An adult with a child's psyche, due to an excessive sense of self-importance, often brags, measures something with someone, tries to appear to be something that is not!

3 an adult with a child's psyche is not able to admit their own mistakes; a person is not able to perceive personal criticism; the main thing for a person is only «to save the face»;

Commentary on sign No. 3.

— An adult with a child's psyche does not understand that criticism is beneficial to a person! Personal criticism is feedback in which people point out to you that you are doing something wrong. In the future, you will correct this and become more professional, which means more competitive!

In particular, children should definitely learn to admit their mistakes — this will harden the child's psyche, such a child will become psychologically more resilient and will easily endure stressful situations in adolescence and in adulthood!


NOTE «Save face» means that an adult is ashamed as a child to admit their mistakes in front of others!

4 a person does not permit alternative points of view; a person does not listen and does not hear; he/she sees only what he/she wants to see;


5 a person has an 100% conviction in his own rightness and obsession with his own position;

Commentary on sign No. 5.

— A truly adult person admits a maximum of 90% of conviction in their own rightness, and reserves the remaining 10% so that they do not accidentally turn off their thinking processes, in which, assuming that he may be wrong, he double-checks the information!


6 an adult with a child's psyche does not realize that he is insulting others; an adult with a teenage psyche uses insults and ridicule, as a way of his own exaltation by humiliating others; schadenfreude (the feeling of joy from someone else's failure / the feeling of chagrin from someone else's success);

Commentary on sign No. 6.

— The ridicule of adults with a teenage psyche at people with a child's psyche is not just insults, but a form of bullying! For example, a group of cowardly teenagers evil and meanly mocks a very young child, knowing that he cannot stand up for himself!
IMPORTANT! INSULTS-HUMILIATIONS ARE USED EXCLUSIVELY BY ADULTS WITH A CHILD'S PSYCHE!
7 a person uses profanity, including in front of women and children;

Commentary on sign No. 7.

— An adult with a child's psyche, a man does not realize that using profanity, he insults a women! Such a man is unlikely to be interesting to a truly adult woman!
IMPORTANT! PROFANITY IS A CLEAR SIGN OF A CHILD'S PSYCHE IN AN ADULT MAN! SUCH A MAN DOES NOT LOOK SERIOUS!
8 a person does not seek to be balanced in judgments;

Commentary on sign No. 8.

—In the course of a conversation, really adults discuss the essence of the issue, and adults with a childish psyche insult each other, shout at each other and quarrel!


9 a person expresses an own value judgments based on conjectures, not real facts or knowledge;

Commentary on sign No. 9.

— In value judgments, an adult with a child's psyche makes final conclusions based on unverified information from one unreliable source, in contrast to a person with an adult worldview, who makes conclusions in value judgments, subjecting everything to analysis*, based on verified information from reliable 4-5 sources, referring to real experts and specialists in a particular field.

* Analysis, like analytical thinking, is not something supernatural, but just a comparison of «A» with «B»!



10 a person expresses an own value judgment on the basis of false conclusions on a principle from particular to general;

Commentary on sign No. 10.

— In real life, this judgment is unfair, because:
  • if one person is like that, this does not mean that everyone is like that;
  • just because one cop is violent doesn't mean all cops are violent;
  • if an African American is a drug addict, that does not mean that all African Americans are drug addicts;
  • if one of the Russians is a drunkard and a rowdy, this does not mean that all Russians are like that;
  • if one official is a bribe taker, it does not mean that all are bribe takers;
  • if one of the entrepreneurs is a fraudster, you can not accuse all bona fide entrepreneurs who supply products to the shelves of our stores of fraud.
— In addition, false judgments in society provoke cruelty, aggression and conflicts! In value judgments, it is recommended to divide people not into black and white, rich and poor, but into truly adults in the worldview of decent people and adults with a child's psyche!


11 a person is not a team player in life;

Commentary on sign No. 11.

— An adult with a child's psyche does not realize that life is a long-term team game, where people are interdependent on each other, so such a person does not have a commitment to the team, to people he has known for many years, to the friends, to the family, to relatives, to his ethnic group! After receiving personal benefits here and now as a result of the work of the whole team, forgetting about the obligations to other members of the team, an adult with a child's psyche, in search of greater benefits for himself, easily leaves the team. The reason is that person is not a team player!

For other team members, a non-team player psychologically looks like a mental traitor who betrayed loyalty in relationships! For example, for children, this may be a father who has left the family; relatives who have turned away from a family member who is trying, contrary to their judgments, to reveal their natural potential; friends who did not support a hobby in which a person tries to reveal their strengths, etc..

ATTENTION! In order for a person to reveal their natural potential in life, they must be in an environment of exclusively team players who are able to support each other psychologically, and most importantly, who are able to focus on revealing each other's strengths. It is important to understand that in order for a person to earn money, he must first focus on solving other people's problems, not his own, but the lack of a team player's worldview does not allow this to be done!



12 a person does not have real friends;

Commentary on sign No. 12.

— A person has no real friends due to the loss of trust because of the unreliability and danger due to the presence of a child's psyche in a person in adult life!

Life, according to a truly adult in the worldview of a person, is always a long-term team game, in which friendship is the presence of a person's personal sense of the need to take care and participate in solving other people's problems, both minor and serious. A person with a child's psyche does not possess this feeling, since he himself is an object of care. As a result, such a person avoids taking on the obligations and responsibilities of complicity in the lives of other people, as a result, remains friendless!

Adults with a child's psyche are not able to cherish the people around them and relationships with them! Most of their relationship is fake: in form — friendship, but not in content. This is the main reason why people everywhere do not care about each other! True friendship is possible only among truly adults in the worldview of people, among adults with a child's psyche, friendship is impossible!



13 a person has an indifferent attitude towards relatives, friends, acquaintances;


14 a person focuses on insignificant and frivolous things for himself, to which he attaches great importance, as a result inflates a big problem out of little things, while he does not attach serious importance to the really important and fateful things in his life ;

Commentary on sign No. 14.

— Adults, due to the presence of a child's psyche and being interdependent on each other, distract each other's attention to things that are unimportant to themselves! As a result, such people, without revealing their natural potential, live their lives in vain!


15 a person avoids responsibility; a person does not strive for independence; a person avoids making responsible decisions, including for himself; a person demonstrates self-doubt, weak character, childish cowardice and helplessness, constantly needs support;

Commentary on sign No. 15.

— An adult with a child's mind does not realize that a person benefits from personal responsibility! The higher the level of responsibility a person takes upon himself, the more success a person will achieve in life!
IMPORTANT! THE HIGHER THE LEVEL OF RESPONSIBILITY, THE MORE SUCCESS A PERSON WILL ACHIEVE IN LIFE!
NOTE It often happens that a person with a child's psyche in order to hide the weakness of character, childish cowardice and helplessness in adult life uses the image of a truly adult, decent, intelligent person, who in fact, unfortunately, is not!
16 a person lacks purposefulness; a person does not attach importance to their own self-organization, self-discipline and self-development.;

Commentary on sign No. 16.

— Most adults with a child's psyche, as a rule, do not have a significant purpose in life at all! Usually this is something frivolous, some small thing, for example, to buy a new smartphone! It is important to understand that a person necessarily needs to set a serious, significant, long-term goal in life that would contribute to self-satisfaction and self-realization of a person, for example, to implement a socially significant project, even if not a large one, or to develop the skills of a specialist who would be respected by others in content, and not in form! It is the striving for a specific goal that will force a person to self-organize, self-discipline and self-develop! The scale of the personality is characterized by the scale of the goal!

In particular, the lack of a significant goal in life and self-realization in a man, unlike a woman who is focused on her children, leads him to an absolute lack of interest in life, to dissatisfaction, to a lack of motivation to live and to a psychological impasse! Such a person feels confused, deprived of the meaning of life, which in the end, often leads a person to alcoholism and drug addiction with all the ensuing consequences!

In addition, an adult with a child's psyche, due to the lack of elementary patience and endurance, is not able to force himself to overcome anything — weak character develops! As a result, such a person is not able to force himself to study or work! Everyone knows that a person who does not attach importance to the development of personal qualities, such as knowledge, skills and experience, necessary in today's highly competitive world, often remains "overboard" of life!



17 a person is not able to prioritize in life;

Commentary on sign No. 17.

— The main priority in a person's life is to focus on building long-term good relationships with the people around him!


18 a person does not plan his life for more than 7 days;

Commentary on sign No. 18.

— A truly adult person plans their life always and only in the long term!

Let's imagine that life is a trip by car from point A to point B! At the same time, a person, driving a car, has driving skills, controls how much fuel is in the tank, monitors the situation on the road, knows the traffic rules and the car's device, keeps the distance, does not provoke an accidents on the road, rebuilds in advance so as not to miss his turn, and also knows how much people travels with him and who are these people and, if insurmountable obstacles arise along the way, he is looking for alternative solutions to these problems! As a result, a person, achieving success in life, comes to point B!

Let's imagine another situation, when a person is driving a car, but there is no route! At the same time, either there is no one behind the wheel, or the car is driven by unknown people, no one monitors the situation on the road, no one knows the traffic rules, the car constantly exceeds the speed, drives into the oncoming lane, provokes numerous accidents, in the car a person is surrounded by strangers, from whom it is unknown what to expect! As a result, a person's life turns into a dangerous and unsuccessful trip to nowhere!

— Such a person, trying not to burden himself with obligations, wants life to be «simpler» and «easier», but in reality his life, and most importantly life of his family, becomes neither simpler nor easier!An adult with a child's psyche, due to the unwillingness to take responsibility for decision-making, does not seek to plan his life, especially in the long term! Such a person, trying not to burden himself with obligations, wants life to be «simpler» and «easier», but in reality his life, and most importantly life of his family, becomes neither simpler nor easier!



19 a person does not focus on their strengths; a person does not strive to be realized in life;

Commentary on sign No. 19.

— A person with a child's psyche is not able to focus on revealing their own natural potential for the purpose of self-realization in life! Such a person has a serious problem — an extremely low self-esteem, which does not allow him to objectively look at their natural capabilities (their strengths)! At the same time, a person is absolutely convinced of his own incapacity and, due to the presence of children's fears and self-doubt, rejects any attempts to at least try to carefully understand his strengths and weaknesses. As a result, a person spends his whole life doing what he should not do, while causing damage to society, and what a person has the ability to do with the benefit of society — does not do!

In addition, a person is surrounded by people like him who, firstly, are not able to discern strengths either in themselves or in those around them due to the presence of a child's psyche, and secondly, they constantly distract each other's attention to insignificant and unimportant things for a person in life. As a result, people with a child's psyche become mutual fixation, mutual focused and mutually dependent on each other already in adult life, which does not allow people to grow up mentally for decades!

It is by focusing on their strengths that a person is able to reveal their natural potential and self-actualize! Such a person will not live their life in vain without achieving anything!


NOTE Attention! Often a person is fixated on their weaknesses, driving themselves into psychoemotional stress throughout their life ("I want to be what I am not given" or "I will not succeed because I am small in stature, overweight, no higher education, no connections, money, etc.")! It is strongly not recommended to do this! It is strongly not recommended to focus on your weaknesses! Do not waste time, energy, nerves! The main thing for a person here and now is to start identifying, focusing and developing their strengths, only the strengths, and the weak ones will disappear by themselves over time!
IMPORTANT! DON'T FOCUS ON YOUR WEAKNESSES! FOCUS ONLY JUST ON THE STRENGTHS! REVEALING THEIR STRENGTHS, A PERSON WILL NOT LIVE THEIR LIFE IN VAIN, WITHOUT ACHIEVING ANYTHING!
NOTE Self-realization is a person's knowledge, skills and experience, confirmed by others!
20 a person does not choose their future profession;

Commentary on sign No. 20.

— A person with a child's psyche does not take responsibility for the choice of his profession, — his parents decide for him, and working in his specialty, he does not develop professional qualities (knowledge, skills, experience), where the desire for professionalism is the struggle with the child's psyche in himself!

— An adult with a child's psyche does not have enough respect for himself and, as a result, for his work! It is absolutely normal for such a person to allow «hack-work» at work, such a person does not value his reputation!
IMPORTANT! HACK AT WORK IS A SIGN OF A CHILD'S PSYCHE! THE DESIRE FOR PROFESSIONALISM IS THE DESIRE TO BE A TRULY ADULT PERSON IN THE WORLDVIEW!
21 parents do not focus on revealing their child's strengths;

Commentary on sign No. 21.

— Often children are dependent on parents with a child's psyche! If the parents themselves have a child's psyche, then such people are not able to closely monitor the desires and abilities of their own children to reveal their strengths! As a result, in such families it is almost impossible for children to realize themselves in life!

Truly adult-minded parents are concerned about the destiny of their children!
IMPORTANT! PROPER PARENTING IS THE DISCLOSURE OF THE NATURAL POTENTIAL OF THE CHILD BY THE PARENTS!
NOTE The problem is that often parents do not cultivate in the child the only strong favorite activity that will motivate a person to live a full life in the long term! This is an important hobby that will motivate a person to gain professional knowledge, to develop skills and accumulate experience aimed at solving other people's problems. It is for this hobby, which will grow into a professional one, that a person will be paid money in adult life! In order to reveal the natural potential (human strengths!) in case your child, regardless of age, as it seems to you, does not show interest in anything and does not want to do anything serious, but only wants to have fun, it is necessary:

1 Constantly and at every opportunity to observe and focus on the interests and hobbies of the child, even if his interests are not clear to you! Treat your child's childhood hobbies in an adult way, and this means listening and listening!

2 Constantly distract the child's attention from things that are not serious for his/her future, all the more dangerous!

3 Constantly involve in actions that arouse the child's interest in what he saw or heard in order to provoke the production of the hormone of joy from receiving information, thereby maximally interest him for the development of curiosity! For example, together or under the supervision of parents, change the gasket in a leaking faucet; fix a bicycle together; go to an exhibition together; try out creative circles, sports sections, learn to play a musical instrument, etc..

At the same time, it is very important for parents to force themselves to do one unpleasant thing - this is constantly forcing the child to do things that are unloved by his/her psyche! Children under the age of 13 are usually psychologically obedient and will listen to their parents, as they understand that it is the parents, and not themselves, who are responsible for them. But with the onset of the age of 14, which will probably be a big surprise for the parents, the child can become completely uncontrollable! During this period, parents are no longer authorities and, trying to become independent and an adult exclusively in the eyes of their peers, the child's psyche of a teenager may strive for an unconscious and still irresponsible disobedience! It will be almost impossible to force such a teenager to do anything without domestic scandals! For parents, the main task here is to form a conscious, responsible DISobedience in the adolescent's psyche!

Precisely DISobedience, because, firstly, if a person retains obedience in adult life, then, regardless of biological age, a person will still have the psyche of a child under 13 years, psychologically incapable of taking responsibility for their actions, and, secondly, often, in order not to stand out among their peers because of the fear of being a black sheep, weakling or coward, such a teenager is easily "taken on weakly" and provoked into a rash, dangerous act for his life! In this case, it is responsible DISobedience that will allow a teenager to learn to say "Adult No", for example, when he is offered to try drugs for the first time; will be offered to commit a criminal offense; manipulate them "into the dark," plunging them into a destructive cult, etc.

Also remember that for the development of a balanced self-esteem, thanks to which it is possible to reveal the strengths, it is very important and necessary for the child to gain experience doing something with his own hands: various crafts; not only break toys, but also repair them; tinkering around the house, helping parents, etc.! An enthusiastic person will always have an interest in life, which in the end will awaken the motivation to do something really serious in life!

To develop that only hobby of the child (conscious responsible DISobedience!) you can use the «from the opposite» method! If you force a child to do what he does not like, what he does by making efforts on himself/herself, what causes rejection and what he categorically does not want to do, then only in this case a clear idea can and should be formed in the child's psyche that he/she is really interested in and what he/she wants to do with full responsibility to himself/herself and others in life! This condition is necessary so that a person can carefully listen to himself/herself, to his/her real desires, to assess his/her strengths and weaknesses in a balanced manner, to be able to understand himself/herself and independently make the most important and responsible decision, what is really important for him and what has Big Meaning for him/her in life!

A clear proof that the goal has been achieved is the inability to force a teenager (14, 15, 16 years old) to abandon his/her beloved, and most importantly, an important business for his/her psyche! If it is easy to force a teenager to stop doing what he/she thinks he/she loves, then the matter is not so important to him/her and this is a sign that he/she, by doing not his/her own business, is misleading himself/herself and his/her parents!

Remember! In the case when a person is forced to do what he/she doesn’t like, all the more against his/her will, for example, to get a specialty that is not interesting to him/her, then he/she will never develop professional knowledge and skills, accordingly he/she will not self-realize and will not achieve success in life!

4 Constantly draw the child's attention to serious and meaningful things in his/her life, to encourage his/her own knowledge, regardless of age, his/her own skills, his/her unique experience, which, firstly, should psychologically stimulate the child to accumulate knowledge capital; secondly, to encourage self-esteem, courage, self-confidence, to the formation of the psyche of balanced self-esteem and the responsibility that is not avoided, but the one that inspires trust, respect and success in society; and thirdly, his/her own knowledge, skills and experience must necessarily be aimed at solving the problems of exclusively other people*, and not only his/her own!

*The metric of actions in society is numbers (money!) and other people do not pay money for solving your own problems!

Remember! When getting a job, each person sells his/her skills, experience and knowledge of how to solve problems exclusively for other people! It is for this reason that very often adults with a child's psyche fall into the "trap" — firstly, when applying for a job, they try to solve exclusively their financial problems, and secondly, due to the lack of knowledge and skills, as well as the inability to focus on solutions other people's problems can not get decent wages!


22 a person does not gain life experience, from year to year, the amount of knowledge and skills does not increase;


23 a person runs from problems instead of looking for their alternative solutions;


24 a person lacks elementary patience and endurance; a person is not able to control himself; person constantly complains to others;

Commentary on sign No. 24.

— An adult with a child's psyche lacks basic patience and endurance. Such a person is not able to control himself, for him the main thing here and now is to solve his minor problem, and if this is not possible, the person becomes irritable, such a person's mood changes dramatically depending on their own whims, the weather, feelings of hunger, fatigue, etc..

— In addition, an adult, due to the presence of a child's psyche, believes that the surrounding people should constantly take care of him! As a result, such a person constantly complains about life, discomfort, neighbors, the boss, the president, the state, the "system". Everyone owes him. Everyone is to blame. At the same time, the person categorically does not want to take responsibility even for himself!


25 a person does not try to understand the essence; a person is unable or unwilling to focus on a specific thought, question, task, problem; the priority is «form», not «content»;

Commentary on sign No. 25.

The principle “Priority of form over content” means that for a person form is more important than content, for example:
  • in form — a family, and in content, everyone is on their own;
  • in form — we have been friends for decades, but in content — if a problem occurs, there is no one around;
  • in form, a person has a higher education, but in content — there is no knowledge, and vice versa, a person does not have a higher education, but there is a lot of knowledge;
  • in form, the network is social, but in content — people don't care about each other;
  • in form — outwardly an adult man, and in content — psychologically child, etc.!
NOTE It is important to understand that in assessing a person, it is necessary to take into account both form and content! To do this, pay attention not only to how the person speaks "beautifully" in form, but to the content - what exactly the person says and offers you, is there any essence, sanity in his words! Pay attention not only to how the person looks in form, but to the content - what the person is and what the person is in life, whether he is an expert in a particular field, whether he has sufficient professional knowledge, skills and experience! Unfortunately, paying attention only to the form, and not the content, people very often make mistakes and get serious problems in life, encountering dishonest people in everyday life: with imaginary leaders, with scammers, with non-professionals, with fake experts, with balabolians and idle talkers!


26 a person strives for anonymity on the web and in life so as not to be responsible for their words and actions;

Commentary on sign No. 26.

— An adult with a childish mentality does not realize that the spoken words are an act! Most conflicts are caused by words!
IMPORTANT! SPOKEN WORDS ARE ALSO AN ACT! HIT IN THE FACE, AS A RULE, FOR WORDS!
27 a person posts photos and videos online that damage their own reputation (for example, being photographed naked!);

Commentary on sign No. 27.

— It is important to note that excessive use of makeup in a woman leads to unjustified expectations for the opposite sex! At the stage of dating, this misleads a man and looks like a deception, which negatively affects the long-term relationship and the creation of a strong family!


28 a person does not attach importance to what environment of people he is;

Commentary on sign No. 28.

— An adult with a child's psyche does not realize that among the people around him and his children there may be people with a child's psyche on whom his fate and the fate of his children will depend! Even if a person manages to independently reveal his natural potential, then self-realization, being surrounded by people with a child's psyche, will be almost impossible!

Truly adult-minded parents are seriously concerned about the future destiny of their children!



29 a person does not realize such a thing as neglecting the personality of another person — the highest form of insult and the basis of most conflicts;

Commentary on sign No. 29.

— An adult with a childish psyche perceives the people around him as an empty space! As a result, a person unconsciously commits acts of an offensive nature towards others, thereby provoking numerous conflicts!


30 a man does not perceive a woman as a person;

Commentary on sign No. 30.

— A man with a child's psyche perceives a woman as a "toy for entertainment" and as a person who must solve his everyday problems — one of the reasons for divorce and domestic conflicts!


31 a person has extreme states: either an egoist or an altruist;

Commentary on sign No. 31.

— Egoism and egocentrism are inherent exclusively in adults with a child's psyche! The presence of children does not form in a person the psyche of the parent in the worldview. Even as a parent, an adult with a child's psyche strives exclusively for his own interest and benefit! Such a parent takes care of his own children, not for the sake of the children, but for his own sake. As a rule, in such families, children are spoiled, constantly in need of a competitive advantage in relation to others and remain weak in character with a child's psyche and in adult life! A truly adult, reaching the state of «Parent», takes care of the child for the sake of the child, and not for the sake of himself!

Altruism is dangerous because a person who selflessly cares about the well-being of others and does not care about himself is left without solutions to personal security issues. Such a person not only does not survive in a highly competitive environment, but also preserves the child's psyche in those around him for a long time!



32 a person has extreme states: either carelessness or panic fear;

Commentary on sign No. 32.

— In an adult with a child's psyche, carelessness leads to tragedy, and panic fear leads to inaction, to psychological helplessness and a state of "victim", or, conversely, to cruel aggression towards people!


33 a person has extreme states: either a pessimist or an optimist;

Commentary on sign No. 33.

— Because of the presence of a child's psyche in adult life, a person often psychologically "winds up" himself, pushes himself to the edge, to extreme psychological exhaustion and a state of depression! In fact, it turns out that a person's problems are not as serious or hopeless as they think!

An adult with a child's psyche, who is pessimistic or optimistic, without striving for balanced judgments, often misleads himself and others!

It is important to understand that in fact, depending on the circumstances, to a certain extent, a person should be both a pessimist and an optimist, where optimism motivates a person to act and move forward, and pessimism allows you to analyze and prepare for the situation if suddenly something goes wrong according to plan!



34 a person has extreme states: either you are with us, or you are against us;

Commentary on sign No. 34.

— An adult with a child's psyche is categorical in relation to others — either you are with us, or you are against us! At the same time, the person does not care what qualities the opponent has positive or negative. As a result, one hundred percent devoted friendship with people without their positive qualities, or one hundred percent hostility with people whose reasoned criticism a person does not want to hear, leads to destructive consequences, to a split in society according to the principle: «If you are not with us, then you are our enemy!».


35 a person has extreme states: either high self-esteem or low self-esteem;

Commentary on sign No. 35.

— A person with high self-esteem looks confident, instilling false trust in others, which allows him, without having talent, professional knowledge, skills and experience, to achieve significant results in life. Much worse is the situation with low self-esteem, when a person with talent, professional knowledge and experience does not make efforts to build their own career, as a result, his place in society is unfairly occupied by a person with an inflated self-esteem!


36 a person characterized by submissive thoughtless diligence and mindless implementation;

Commentary on sign No. 36.

— Adults with a child's psyche are easily manipulated! Such people easily succumb to the actions of fraudsters, become victims of financial pyramids, religious sects, destructive cults, can easily fall under the influence of criminal elements and may not even suspect that they are being used. As a rule, adults with a teenage psyche manipulate people with a child's psyche, in other words, overage "teenagers" parasitize on very "little" ones!


37 an adult with a child's psyche litters; fights; smokes; uses alcohol and drugs; seeks to purchase a firearm for the sake of a competitive advantage in society;

Commentary on sign No. 37.

— An adult with a child's psyche litters in a public place; fights on the street and is the instigator of domestic violence, where a person uses beating others as a way of self-aggrandizement; smokes (really adults do not smoke!); drinks alcohol without a reason, without control, alone; in a state of intoxication does not keep himself in hand, is aggressive; uses drugs of any strength.

— An adult with a child's psyche makes tattoos, which he/she will regret in the future, besides, he/she does not understand that the presence of tattoos most often negatively affects a person's fate. It will not be easy for people with tattoos to get a decent job and build a career. It will be more difficult for a girl with tattoos to marry a serious person to create a prosperous family.

— An adult man with a child's psyche, in order to compensate for the lack of masculinity, as well as in order to gain a competitive advantage over other men in society, seeks to purchase gas, traumatic, hunting weapons without the purpose of going hunting or in sports interests, including for the purpose of entertainment for irresponsible shooting at "cans"!

The presence of firearms on civilians leads to psychological strain due to the excessive fear of being shot anywhere in a public place! All this in society even more generates mutual distrust and fear, which ultimately leads adults with a childish psyche to a nervous breakdown, where, due to a minor conflict, people begin to shoot at each other!

In addition, to get rid of the constant fear and overstrain from social disorder, adults with a child's psyche begin to use drugs, drink alcohol excessively and everything repeats again — again nervous breakdowns, aggression, conflicts that end in shooting! For this reason, it is difficult for people to build relationships with each other, people rarely communicate in society, or communication is formal, artificial, in which adults with a child's psyche in fact do not care about each other!


NOTE The presence of firearms in a civilian person can only be provided if the person really has the psyche of a truly adult in the worldview of a person, that is, he does not have any of the 44 signs of a child's psyche, and provided that this person is going to serve in law enforcement agencies or the armed forces! Otherwise, a firearm in an adult with a child's psyche will lead to a tragedy: to the shooting of schoolchildren, to crime, to accidents, to suicides!



38 a person does not realize the value of their own culture, language, identity; a person does not realize that, the material world is solutions to household safety problems of the physical body;

Commentary on sign No. 38.

— An adult with a child's psyche does not realize that the preservation of their own culture and language lies in the area of safety of their own kind, where passing the baton from father to son from generation to generation, each of the ancestors contributed to the common cause for the sake of preserving the life of future generations!

— An adult with a child's psyche does not realize that, unlike the spiritual, the material world is numerous solutions to the safety of the physical body, namely: the need to take responsibility for making decisions on the organization of housing, production of food, water, heat, transport, information, communication , education, medicine, entertainment*, etc., and this is the solution to the issues of personal safety, the safety of your family, kind, ethnic group, state, humanity as a whole!

* «Entertainment» here is a psychological relief and refers to the solution of issues of safety of psychological health of a person.

There are always three factors at the heart of a person's decision making:

1. solutions to household safety problems;
2. «save face» (this factor reveals in a person signs of a child's psyche!);
3. in the power of forced decisions, when a person is dependent on the first and second factors.

The force of action generates the force of reaction! A person can himself provoke actions of an undesirable nature against himself, plunging the opponent into the power of forced decisions! If a person decides questions of personal security, the security of his family, a kind, state at the expense of the security of the family of another person, kind, state, then in this case the opposite side is at the mercy of forced decisions and is forced to exert pressure in response, for example, by using force, which leads to domestic conflicts, street clashes, and even to international wars!



39 a person has a senseless waste of money;

Commentary on sign No. 39.

— Seeking here and now to get insignificant benefits, an adult with a child's psyche, who is already in financial difficulties, thoughtlessly wastes his own money on entertainment and toys! ATTENTION! It is not recommended to give large sums of money to adults with a child's psyche!


40 a person does not perceive earnings as a reward for creative work and contribution to solving household safety problems of society;

Commentary on sign No. 40.

— An adult with a child's psyche does not understand that money is numbers, with the help of which people measure the contribution of each to the solution of household safety problems of society: to the production of food, water, heat, housing, etc.! In addition, he does not understand that by agreeing to a particular salary, a person gives himself an assessment — his knowledge, skills and experience!


41 a person is not aware of the origin of the products on the shelves in stores;

Commentary on sign No. 41.

— An adult with a child's psyche does not realize where the products on the shelves in stores come from! He absolutely does not care that behind each product is the fate of a particular person who was not afraid to spend their own strength, knowledge, money, time, health, patience, as well as to take on the risks and obligations of organizing the production of a particular product or service that solves household safety problems of society, and in case of failure of the business may lose everything!


42 a person has a desire to gain a competitive advantage over other members of society;

Commentary on sign No. 42.

— In an adult with a teenage psyche, an excessive sense of childish fear that he simply will not survive among his own kind, leads to the desire to gain a competitive advantage in life over other members of society at any cost!

For this reason, a person seeks to obtain a high status in society, for example: to make a career for himself and his children, not according to their abilities, but according to their acquaintance; strives to become famous and popular not for the love of art, but for the sake of privileges in society, making his life more profitable; strives to become an «imaginary» leader, a «big» boss, an official in power, not in order to responsibly solve the problems of others, but for the sake of personal safety* and personal benefit!

*The presence of power in a person who is not able to solve their own problems provides an opportunity to solve them, and it is difficult to demand from a person with a child and teenage psyche to solve the problems of other people, if a person has come to the power to solve their own!

Often such people, using the tool of corruption, strive to enrich themselves for the sake of one goal - to buy all the solutions for personal safety and the safety of their families, thereby gaining a competitive advantage over other people! The response is obvious — in the eyes of society, people with an undeserved competitive advantage are unreliable, dangerous and, accordingly, their family members will always be disrespected due to lack of trust, as a result of which the living conditions of their families instead of safe ones, on the contrary, will become dangerous!
IMPORTANT! ONLY TRULY ADULTS WHO ARE ABLE TO SOLVE THE PROBLEMS OF OTHER PEOPLE SHOULD BE IN POWER!
43 a person seeks to commit criminal acts;

Commentary on sign No. 43.

— Due to the presence of a child's psyche, a person has a desire to undeservedly gain a competitive advantage over other people in order to live better! As a result, such a person, who is prone to easy money, is easily involved in criminal activities ranging from petty offenses to organizing criminal gangs, corruption and fraudulent schemes!

Among such people, capable of an act, striving to prove their social significance to their peers, as a rule, there are strong-willed, talented people who, if they revealed their natural potential and self-realized in public life, would achieve much greater success than their peers! Unfortunately, the owners of a deceptive model of worldview that are destructive for themselves and those around them end up with disrespect in society and imprisonment!

In addition, the psychology of a person who seeks to commit criminal acts is based from childhood on the conflict between the poor and the rich, in which it is believed that the rich have a competitive advantage over the poor to solve the security issues of their families by simply buying these solutions. At the same time, it is believed in society that all those participating in the competition for survival should be legally in equal conditions, in conditions of fair competition, which in fact does not correspond to reality - in fact, the families of the poor and the rich run different distances! As a result, this leads to massive indignation, and as a result to class hatred, which forms criminal psychology in a person!



44 an adult with a child's psyche is not able to understand that people do not choose at birth:
  • their skin color;
  • their nationality;
  • their first and last name;
  • their sex;
  • their physiology;
  • their parents;
  • their birthplace;
  • their social status (poor / rich);
  • their life circumstances during the first 14 years*;
  • their mental abilities;
  • their talent or lack of it.
REPROACH, BLAME, AND EVEN MORE SO TO HUMILIATE A PERSON BECAUSE OF THIS YOU CAN NOT!

* During the first 14 years, the child is completely dependent on his parents! If a child is in circumstances in which, through no fault of his own, he does not have access to sports clubs, creative circles, music schools, etc., while a child from a low-income family living in a small provincial town and being under the influence of the "street" surrounded by adults with a child's psyche, then it is practically and technically impossible to reveal to such a child their own strengths for the purpose of self-realization in life!
ATTENTION! THE CHILD PSYCHE IN ADULTS — THE TRUE CAUSES OF RACISM, FACISM, ANTI-SEMITISM, CHAUVINISM, AMERICANOPHOBIA, RUSSOPHOBIA, XENOPHOBIA, ETC.!
ATTENTION! ALCOHOL, DRUGS, WEAPONS, DRIVING, POPULARITY, BIG MONEY, POWER AND INFLUENCE — STRONGLY NOT RECOMMENDED FOR ADULTS WITH A CHILD'S PSYCHE!
ATTENTION! IF YOU ARE INSULTED OR HUMILIATED BY AN ADULT WITH A CHILD'S PSYCHE — DO NOT REACT!
NOTE Users using the color blocksign system «Conflict-free thinking™» can technically independently add signs of a child's psyche for General consideration and discussion within the resource!

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